People (supposedly) cannot choose their preferences, but when homophobes or racists claim they were born prejudiced and can't help themselves, people dismiss that as a shoddy excuse.
Why do we blame ignorance and upbringing when someone is a bigot, but ignore how society can influence what we find beautiful? Apparently, love and hate play by different rules, when in reality they're two sides of the same coin.
I have a few answers of my own, but people wouldn't believe me. After all, there are 7 billion of us and yet no one can choose their preferences. The idea of one person being capable of that is blasphemy.