Let's say a kid in school has a bad reputation as the least popular loser. Who would want to date him, when they could wait for someone better? Likewise, let's say your physical traits are regarded as weak and inferior. Who would want to date you, when they could have someone with less social baggage?
Another analogy. You're given a great car that's highly efficient, but it has a bunch of stickers plastered all over it that cannot be removed. These stickers say things like the driver inside is a bitter weakling with a Napoleon Complex. Some assholes will claim that they'd still drive this car to spite my point, but let's face it, you wouldn't want to be seen driving such a monstrosity every day to work. Replace the car with a short man. What girl would prefer to date a man with negative labels slapped all over him?
I'm not saying one is doomed to be alone if they're stigmatized.
I'm saying, there's a reason why traits with bad names are always at
the bottom of dating surveys. This is how store brands work. Many expensive purses barely look different from cheaper ones, nor do they have many extra features, but it's the status they embody that makes girls giddy.
If you think stigmas have no effect on mating, and "the
heart wants what the heart wants," then you're one naive